We all love a little friendly competition; it’s what makes spectator sports so popular. Becoming a proud fan of a team also helps release your competitive nature, but when it comes down to the nitty-gritty, the only person you should compete with is yourself.
When used in a positive way, competition can encourage us to grow and learn. Very easily, however, we can become too engrossed in “winning” and allow others’ successes to affect us in a negative manner. When you wrap yourself up in what others are doing you can miss the point entirely, subsequently sidetracking yourself from focusing your energies on what you can control -yourself.
David and my motto in life is – YOU, ME & GOD. Truthfully, in this very competitive life of baseball we only have control of our actions and no one else’s. It is pointless and a waste of time to focus on what others around you are doing or not doing. So much can change on a whim so why not enjoy the moment? Trades, cuts and demotions/promotions are being made daily in the world of baseball and we have zero control over it. As long as we live in the now, focusing our intentions on becoming better people, we know we are headed in the right direction.
I find it interesting that many reporters have asked David what MLB player he would compare himself to. This is simply not a question that comes to mind for us – ever. David is – you guessed it – David, and no one else. He has his strengths and his weaknesses, as we all do, and he will never compare himself to anyone else. No two people in this world are alike and we have recognized that he is unique, one and only, therefore, making comparisons senseless. We are focused on competing with our own potential and trying to exploit our personal strengths by working even harder to improve them.
When you have a hard time accepting what I have addressed above, you can easily fall into the trap of constant comparisons. These comparisons lead to envy, which is one of the ugliest attitudes known to man. It takes hold of people, appearing relentless. This truth is evident in fans as well as the very people in the game.
I remember the day that David got drafted by the Yankees. At that point in his life, nothing mattered but the game. It was about having the opportunity to play and being grateful for those who believed in him. The signing bonus this time around had taken on a completely different level of importance than it did out of high school – NONE. David didn’t care what the Yankees paid him as long as he had the opportunity to play the game he never stopped loving. The same year that David was drafted, a bunch of our friends were too. Many of them in the first and second rounds with several signing multi-million dollar deals. Regardless of what they signed for or where in the draft they went, it didn’t matter. We were overjoyed to see all of our friends having great success and there was absolutely no room in our hearts for envy.
This still holds true today. As we get older, more and more of our friends are making their MLB debuts and some of them are starters now. If not for our focus and self-acceptance, we could easily become envious or depressed that we are still in the minors. Nevertheless, we are genuinely happy for our friends because we know that there is enough room in this world for all of us to succeed.
The cold hard reality is I am tired of the gossip and the rumors. Since moving this year and recently joining twitter, I have been overwhelmed by the constant information overload. One day I am reading about trades, another it’s releases and then you have the PEDs issues that are still too common. Frankly, none of it concerns David or me. I have learned the hard way that David just doesn’t want to hear it. Why? Exactly! Why would we?
When it comes to baseball, we are focused on ourselves. We don’t care how much other people are making or when they are given an opportunity for any reason other than congratulating them. If we stood around comparing our paychecks or wondering when someone may get traded or cut, we would be wasting a whole lot of time. Instead, we have moved past all that and begun addressing our own personal growth.
I am not perfect nor will I pretend to be, but one nasty emotion that I am happy to say has greatly dissipated from my heart, is envy. There is simply no room for it in this short life that we live. David and I have chosen to live as loving a life as possible, one that rules out the need to criticize people. Every minute that we spend focusing on others is a minute lost.
If you are a Christian or open to reading the Bible, I encourage you to read Pslam 35. This Psalm is one of the reasons David wears number 35 and it speaks such profound truth.
Be well, and as my sister would say, BEGR8ER.